“Busy!” is the most common response I hear from people when I ask them how they are.
I’ve noticed that in recent years the most common response when asked about our well-being has changed. The most common responses used to be “Not bad!” or “I’ve been worse!” Today the most common response is “Busy!”
Everyone working in schools these days is busy. Even under performing staff are busy. They are just busy doing the wrong things.
I have no doubt the statement is true, you are busy. However, being busy and being seen to be busy are held up like a badge of honour. If we aren’t frazzled and frantically running from one meeting to the next we fear people will think we aren’t working hard enough.
What is this behaviour modeling to our colleagues?
I love this quote from Brenne Brown.
“It takes courage to say yes to rest and play in a culture where exhaustion is seen as a status symbol.”
I challenge you to set some boundaries for yourself this semester.
- Do you have to do the hours you are currently doing?
- Do you have to do those hours every week?
- Could you finish and leave school by 4 pm, one day per week and do something that is good for your well-being? If not every week, then which weeks?
- Are your expectations of yourself realistic?
- Are you utilising your time well or fluffing around on unimportant matters?
- If you are checking work email at night, set a time limit. You’ll be amazed at how much gets done in 15 minutes if we set a timer!
- What do you need to do more of this semester to look after your own well-being?
- What could you do less of?